Dating woman 4 kids
So, Tim, you’re gonna get the same annoying logical treatment that all of our female readers get.Sorry about that, but, well, that’s what you get for submitting a question here.I’m a 38-year old, single male, never been married and have had a handful of serious long-term relationships (2 years being the longest), a lot of short term-dating and over 100 dates that didn’t go beyond a first date.I have been on a dating website on and off for almost 11 years, probably a total of 7.Which I am sure says a lot about how I feel for this woman and the direction I am looking to go with her.Also, I will not neglect to mention that she is 23 years old and that isn’t even the issue. I have made the conscious decision of not dating anybody with any children because I don’t want to deal with the other parent or become part of that responsibility.I’m thinking of workaholics, angry/bitter-prone personalities, and impulsive, always-looking-for-the-party personalities.These types typically don’t have a significant part of their personalities that is nurturing.
News flash: A significant portion of the population are not nurturers by nature and won’t make good, nurturing parents.
As long as you start with this crucial building block – wholeheartedly wanting to be a parent – you can get to know and date that new person, and the relationship may actually work out or even morph into the kind of union you’ve always wanted.
If you are on the fence about wanting kids, forcing yourself into a pre-established family adds so many pressures, and it’s not necessarily worth the hassle unless you live somewhere where there are truly few to no other dating options.
Sooner or later, you’ll discover if you’re truly compatible in the long-term – or if, as I suspect, you’re just infatuated with the hot single mom in the short-term.
Sorry dude, but if you don’t want kids, and she already has one, then she isn’t a blackjack 20. The fact you are asking, makes it seem like you are agonizing.