Insecurity difference men women dating
’ I feel so superficial complaining about it, but when I look in the mirror, it’s sometimes all I can see.” “I’m still insecure about my parenting abilities — or perhaps lack thereof. I have two daughters and four step kids, and trying to navigate the ‘being a good dad’ thing is a source of constant internal intrigue. I asked a (slightly smaller) group of adult men the same question and (couldn’t help but) compare their answers to those of the women who submitted.Though they touched on many of the same topics, I detected two differences worth mulling over.My thoughts vacillate somewhere between ‘you don’t know how good you have it’ to ‘I just wish I had done that while I could’ to ‘Do I look like my grandfather at 29? ’ to ‘Is my head too big to pull off the bald look? Am I taking every opportunity to model a life in service to others, to each other, and one that matters.
When I asked adult women to tell me their deepest persistent insecurities, their answers spanned a diverse spectrum of topics, from the physical to the emotional: acne, cellulite, weight, intellect, career, relationships, etc.When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked.You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents.Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.